I agree. I think only a very few men can pull off the bow tie look. No way to describe the guy who can successfully wear one, but I know 'em when I see 'em.
BTW, the black or white formal bowtie works for everybody. If you ever have the chance to wear one with a dinner jacket, be sure to get one you have to tie yourself. It takes a while to get the hang of tying it, but it looks way classier than the pre-tied kind.