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Is it rude/inconsiderate to wear red to a wedding?

Discussion in 'The Powder Room' started by winogcrehan, Feb 16, 2012.

  1. winogcrehan

    winogcrehan Banned

    Hey Ladies, I need your advice. I found this eally beautiful dress that looks amazing on me.
    I was thinking about wearing it to a wedding. The wedding starts at 4pm for the ceremony and reception will shortly follow at about 6 - 7pm. I was telling a friend about it, and she thinks that I shouldn't wear red, because it will be 'asking for too much attention' and it's rude. I never really thought about this before, so I need advice. What do you guys think? Is it rude/inconsiderate to wear red to a wedding?
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  2. AdrianLvsRocky

    AdrianLvsRocky One of the Regulars

    I really don't think so. I've been to plenty of weddings where guests have worn red. A few people wore red to my wedding - it didn't even cross my mind that there was anything wrong with it.

    I think the only real no-no for weddings is white/ivory colours for obvious reasons.

    I recently wore red to a friend's wedding. Albeit because she asked me and a few friends to do so, so that we'd match the wedding colours. I think red was a nice foil to her white dress.

    I've honestly never heard of red being an issue so don't think you have anything to worry about.
  3. Flicka

    Flicka One Too Many

    I agree with Adrian - I've been to plenty of weddings where people wore red. The only no-nos I know is white, like Adrian said, and black because it's a joyous occasion and hence black (for women obviously) isn't appropriate.
  4. 1961MJS

    1961MJS Call Me a Cab


    I think it's probably o.k. for the ladies to wear a red dress for a wedding, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't want a guy wearing a bright red suit to my wedding, truly disgusting colored tuxes are reserved for the groomsmen...

  5. Drappa

    Drappa One Too Many

    It may be a cultural thing perhaps. Don't Chinese brides wear red on their wedding day? Maybe your friend got confused, because unless the bride is wearing it I also don't see anything wrong with it. At least it's not jeans...
  6. I Think it highly inappropriate if your the On friendly terms, Ex-Wife

  7. sheeplady

    sheeplady My Mail is Forwarded Here Bartender

    I have always heard that one shouldn't wear red or white to a wedding unless you are asked to do so by the bride. White tries to look like the bride, and red is such an eye catching color it draws attention away from the bride.

    Or at least those are the rules i've heard/ read in ettiquette books.

    In the end, it's up to you. If you really like the dress, and don't think the bride or her family would mind or care, go for it!
  8. Can you ask the bride? Are you close enough?
  9. Amy Jeanne

    Amy Jeanne Call Me a Cab

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  10. Flicka

    Flicka One Too Many

    This must be one of those cultural things, because I've never seen it in etiquette books here (not that I've read any printed after 1960, but anyway). As for Britain, I consulted Debrett's and they say:

    They say nothing about red, so I assume that Debrett's thinks it OK, anyway (and they know British etiquette).

    Maybe America has rules of its own?
  11. betty amazing

    betty amazing New in Town

    I'd ask the bride if you can - some people have really odd rules when it comes to their wedding. When I get hitched I'm sure I wouldn't be too fussed - I'd only think it was a little bit odd if you were wearing a pale, 'bridal' colour.

  12. fortworthgal

    fortworthgal Call Me a Cab

    The only "rule" I've heard is to avoid wearing white or ivory.

    When we got married, I could barely tell you what my own parents wore! It just isn't something you notice or worry about on your wedding day.

    I think the dress will be just fine!
  13. I think any colour, apart from what shade the bride is wearing is fair game really. I have worn black to a few weddings. I think upstaging the bride by wearing her colour is the major faux pas. These days i think the majority of people are fairly relaxed about wedding attire, perhaps even a little too relaxed!
  14. sheeplady

    sheeplady My Mail is Forwarded Here Bartender

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  17. crazydaisy

    crazydaisy Practically Family

    Well, I wore red with black accessories a few years ago at a friend's wedding back home in Romania. She couldn't have cared less, in fact complimented me about my choice, while she herself in her pale green knee length dress was less than the conventional bride, yet appropriate for the modest service in a quaint little church and the garden party that followed.
    Still, other attendants gave me dirty looks, and I felt not only overdressed, but also inappropriately coloured. It was only after returning from the wedding that I read about red - as a colour block at least - not being a suitable choice for weddings as it is too loud. It might be worth to mention that the wedding took place in Eastern Europe, so perhaps in the context of a society that tends to be more traditional/old fashioned in some ways, the "no red" rule stood firm?! Yet when checking with my mother/grandmother, it did not seem to be a rule they were aware of., and I had seen people at weddings before wearing red...

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