It's not actually that bad if you get it from the right source. The issue is all of the bias. Most brands tend to do only raw or only sanforized so when they release information, it's incredibly biased toward one side or the other. This means that people who haven't already spent time learning about it feel more lost than necessary. On top of that, a lot of raw denim wearers like to make it seem more complicated than it is to feel special and like their better than those who don't wear raw denim. I just explain it like this: Ever tried Levi's shrink to fit? Raw denim is like that. Sanforized raw denim is like every other pair of jeans you've owned, but better. If they have no idea, then I just say: Raw denim shrinks an inch or 2 in the waist and 2-3 inches in the inseam. The store selling them will almost always tell you exactly how much they will shrink and even provide post-soak measurements. Buy the pair that fits you after they shrink. Hell, raw denim is actually easier to size because people actually give out full measurements unlike other brands that just give waist size and leg opening.