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Does wearing vintage Get you noticed by the opposite sex?

Alex

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Well my girlfriend said she loves my greaser hair and vintage style. She thought it looked super cute since she saw me sporting it (before we really knew each other)in school.
 

Yeps

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Despite having commented on this thread, I don't think I actually answered it. I will say no, but that is because I have no game and my personal obliviousness/insecurities counteracts any positive effect the clothes have.

However, dressing classically does get me attention. I do get a lot of compliments. However, I found out that much of the attention was largely just trying to figure out what team I was batting for.
 

BowTieSoFly

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I've found it has mainly to do with how one wears what one wears... a carefree swagger (expressly NOT tough guy) in a baby blue suit got me smiles and a few compliments, it opened conversations and was good for a few laughs later on... If you don't particularly care what others think and show it subtly enough they will realize that they don't care about your style matching theirs either... if not, oh well -it's a plenty big world.
 

Travis Lee Johnston

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I'm a big dude, always have been. I've walked down the block in a sapphire blue, double breasted suit and a hat to match with shiney black biscuit toes with sox to match the suit. And a black bow tie. You gotta have at least a little righteous swagger to pull that off correct. I got a lot of positive attention from guys and dolls. A tiny bit of negative of course.

I spent a lot of my life being too shy and self conscious. I can only imagine what I missed out on in that time. But with age you just stop giving a shit about naysayers and even rejection from others. Girls in perticular. As a man, you have to make a move if you want a girls attention cause you miss 100% of the chances you don't take. A girl/woman wants you to be a man. That means the dress, the attitude, and doing it all in a righteous way. Being fickle and scared of cooties is how you wind up being a 40 year old virgin and put in that friend "box". What's the worse thing a girl is gonna do? Say no. Maybe talk some smack too. But who cares about her? There's ALWAYS a girl to take little miss' place.

Does dressing this way get you more attention? You bet it does. I wouldn't be any way else. This is how I look and the way I walk is just the way I walk.
 
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Odalisque

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As a man, you have to make a move if you want a girls attention cause you miss 100% of the chances you don't take. A girl/woman wants you to be a man. That means the dress, the attitude, and doing it all in a righteous way. Being fickle and scared of cooties is how you wind up being a 40 year old virgin and put in that friend "box".

Lord, I wish more men thought this way! Seems like most guys I come across these days are scared witless of making a move on a gal. I'm getting tired of always having to initiate. :rolleyes:
 

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Lord, I wish more men thought this way! Seems like most guys I come across these days are scared witless of making a move on a gal. I'm getting tired of always having to initiate. :rolleyes:

Yeah, I am one of those guys. Unless there is latin music playing, and then for some reason I am great, but without that: awkward mess.
 

chanteuseCarey

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A good one Odalisque.

When I first met my Mr., he sang! We were in a Foxtrot class, and they periodly have the men rotate during the lesson. When we paired up, on came the song "Ain't that a Kick in the Head" by Dean Martin. One of his very favourite tunes, he started singing. Then I chimed in...:)

Yeps, and other gents- do you like movies and music of the Golden Era, can you social dance, can you sing the old songs?? My ex was very introverted and shy, and decided to do something about it- he took up social/ballroom dancing. He discovered he naturally had it in him to be a good dancer and really enjoyed doing it.

Maybe you can carry a boombox? Or hire a latin band to follow you around?
:) :)
 

Justin B

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In the end it comes down to one thing. It's not a secret. It's not even difficult though many make it so. What is the mythical thing?

Confidence.

It's sexy. Guy, girl, doesn't matter. Whatever you wear, if you wear it confidently you are the star of the show. If you think of yourself as shy...you will be. I'm not a naturally outgoing person. I choose to be. Worst you get is a flat no, but why do that? If you're going to go down, go down in flames...and make it spectacular!
 

Tatum

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I'm amused that this thread got resurrected. As a married gal, I have to say that I think a lot more gentlemen approach me than they used to, now that I have a vintage style. But I think it might also take a certain kind of guy/gal to approach a vintage type. I know many of us have made the "people think I'm aloof because of my style" comment.

Justin B and Travis Lee put it quite astutely, there is a major confidence factor in having a vintage style, and most people of the opposite sex are attracted to confidence, vintage style or no. We just wear it a little more obviously in many cases, and quite literally.
 

Travis Lee Johnston

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Lord, I wish more men thought this way! Seems like most guys I come across these days are scared witless of making a move on a gal. I'm getting tired of always having to initiate. :rolleyes:

I'd make a move, but my arms aren't that long;)

Guys aren't really taught how to handle rejection of that sort on a constant basis. Some ladies will be really nasty or harsh on a guy, especially if he has a timid presentation.
 

Tatum

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I'd make a move, but my arms aren't that long;)

Guys aren't really taught how to handle rejection of that sort on a constant basis. Some ladies will be really nasty or harsh on a guy, especially if he has a timid presentation.

^ Great response ;)

I always feel bad that I have to let a guy down and tell him I'm married, but that's a built in. What IS the appropriate way to say "No thanks" to a gentleman? I've always been curious about that...
 
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So true, I've gotten flat out disgust on a couple occasions and I just replied, "A simple 'no' would've sufficed." I think people just weren't taught manners. I have been asked out by women who I simply had no interest in, but I just politely declined.

I'd make a move, but my arms aren't that long;)

Guys aren't really taught how to handle rejection of that sort on a constant basis. Some ladies will be really nasty or harsh on a guy, especially if he has a timid presentation.
 

Odalisque

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I'd make a move, but my arms aren't that long;)

Guys aren't really taught how to handle rejection of that sort on a constant basis. Some ladies will be really nasty or harsh on a guy, especially if he has a timid presentation.

Any "lady" that will cruelly shoot down a guy that makes a respectable move isn't a true lady. And who'd want to date a mean old hag like that anyway?
 

Travis Lee Johnston

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^ Great response ;)

I always feel bad that I have to let a guy down and tell him I'm married, but that's a built in. What IS the appropriate way to say "No thanks" to a gentleman? I've always been curious about that...

Well Tatum, I'd say just tell him you're married even if you weren't. Say thank you in a non condescending way. There's no reason to be nasty to a guy who's paying you the complement of at the very least wanting to spend some "quality time" with you.
 

Travis Lee Johnston

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So true, I've gotten flat out disgust on a couple occasions and I just replied, "A simple 'no' would've sufficed." I think people just weren't taught manners. I have been asked out by women who I simply had no interest in, but I just politely declined.

Hell, I've gone out with girls I didn't even like. I was just bored and thought they were kinda cute and not morbidly obese. Just bein honest, haha.
 

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