Travis Lee Johnston
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I have ww2 tattoo flash all over my arms, I'm six feet tall and 280 pounds so I think they're too scared to say "Go away Ogre". Maybe it's my sweet face and demeanor?
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I have ww2 tattoo flash all over my arms, I'm six feet tall and 280 pounds so I think they're too scared to say "Go away Ogre". Maybe it's my sweet face and demeanor?
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I've done that too, dated one plus-sized girl, too. Not an issue for me, she had a good personality, morbidly obese certainly wouldn't be the term for her though lol more pleasingly plump. I'll go out on dates with girls that I have no interest with at first because you cannot judge a book by its cover. I've only turned down a few that, well, let's just say this is a small town and I know where they've been and what they've done.
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^ Great response
I always feel bad that I have to let a guy down and tell him I'm married, but that's a built in. What IS the appropriate way to say "No thanks" to a gentleman? I've always been curious about that...
Just hold the ring finger up. One can add "Sorry, married" but the phrase is redundant
MikeBravo
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And if the guy persists, then he's no gentleman to begin with
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Weirdly enough, of the women I have known personally who whine about men not making the first move any more, a fair few of them have been by far the most vicious when it comes to turning a guy down. lol
Travis Lee Johnston
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Those women probably try to be the boss in their relationships too and spend a lot of time being lonely and unhappy cause they can't learn to chill out and be a cool companion.
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Okay, I know I have to turn everyone down. What I was really asking (and I apologize for not being clearer) was, what is the appropriate way to say no if you are single? I'm asking because, before I was married, I always wondered, and I have friends who give guys a brushoff and I always tell them they could have been nicer... So, what would you consider a nice way to be turned down?
A good one Odalisque.
When I first met my Mr., he sang! We were in a Foxtrot class, and they periodly have the men rotate during the lesson. When we paired up, on came the song "Ain't that a Kick in the Head" by Dean Martin. One of his very favourite tunes, he started singing. Then I chimed in...
Yeps, and other gents- do you like movies and music of the Golden Era, can you social dance, can you sing the old songs?? My ex was very introverted and shy, and decided to do something about it- he took up social/ballroom dancing. He discovered he naturally had it in him to be a good dancer and really enjoyed doing it.
I can swing and salsa/merengue, and I can definitely sing. I definitely give the best impression when dancing. It is small talk that I am bad at.
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I don't know that there is an easy way. Rejection is never fun, though personally I'd settle for not being made to feel that I'd caused grievous insult by asking the question.
It may just be the laid back nature of your locale. Come up to NYC and you'll be filing a restraining order every other week......Seems like most guys I come across these days are scared witless of making a move on a gal. I'm getting tired of always having to initiate.
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[video]http://www.youtube.com/embed/OczRpuGKTfY[/video]
Yeah, more or less, although I would like to think that I am a better dancer than he is, although with that music (which is entertaining,) there aren't many options of how to dance.
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My husband finds it very entertaining when I do that dance!
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Edward
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Mmn. For me, alas, this would be closer the mark:
[video=youtube;w7nwkHcuNjQ]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w7nwkHcuNjQ&feature=related[/video]
Or, alas, this:
[video=youtube;mVzj2lb98WE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mVzj2lb98WE&feature=related[/video]
Do you mean school in a literal sense as in teach ballet? yes. Do you mean school in a slang sense as in win or something like that? Um... no I guess.
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The former. I'm against both competing with grammar school children and the use of slang.
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I completely agree with you of course, and yet I can't shake the hot idea of you making the first move.
Like that great post by the other guy who I can't be bothered to quote, I'm not a naturally outgoing chap but in recent years I've chosen to be one. But I can't help but love a forward woman. And like that other good post by some other guy a few pages before that first guy, to give him a sort of a worthless credit, I don't go full-on vintage either, but I do wear older and more classically styled wool suits that I find in thrift stores, some with the vest, and I wear them everywhere now - the movies, the mall, on the town, in the country, at the grocery store, etc. That's enough to be abnormal to some people, but as someone else or perhaps one of the first two guys I mentioned already excellently pointed out, you have to be confident and not give a button what anyone else thinks, or else you won't even be able to enjoy life properly at all, suit or not.
Does it get me play? Play's a euphemism for porking, right? Just kidding. Well certainly it gets me some great attention, and sometimes from unlikely places. Case in point: I was picking up an iced coffee from a McDonalds here in Charlotte a couple of days ago, on the way out to the country to see some relatives there. Tweed jacket with patched sleeves, dark brown wool pants, white shirt, black silk tie and shiny brown shoes. A cute black girl in a tank top and cut-off jean shorts with a tramp stamp and flip flops was staring at me in the parking lot, and she had a boyfriend too...
Now, I could have jumped to conclusions and chalked it up to derision, but that's not how I cut the pie. Her boyfriend strode ahead of her on the way in and let the door shut in our faces. XD I held it open for her and to my surprise she said she really liked my suit, with a solid up-and-down undressing too, if I may be so bold as to project that onto her. I said "It's not a suit you dumb bitch, it's a jacket and pants." No of course I didn't, I didn't even think that; please excuse my inappropriate sense of "humor." But she really did compliment the outfit like that, and it totally made my day.
I've definitely never been complimented by a girl when not wearing a suit or hat. My hats get me the most compliments, so I have to side with the "girls love fedoras" school of thought here at the lounge. I can't go out in a fedora without getting a compliment on it, and I'm so dumb with girls that it's never even occurred to me before to plonk it on the complimenter's head, as that one savvy poster likes to do. Now I can't wait to go out in my hat again. I'll probably do it wrong though and they'll go from nervous smiles to shrieking "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?" as I come in with the hat, and then a boyfriend will appear from somewhere and gut punch me. Just a real, solid, gut punch. Take me right to the floor.
Lord, I wish more men thought this way! Seems like most guys I come across these days are scared witless of making a move on a gal. I'm getting tired of always having to initiate.
I completely agree with you of course, and yet I can't shake the hot idea of you making the first move.
Like that great post by the other guy who I can't be bothered to quote, I'm not a naturally outgoing chap but in recent years I've chosen to be one. But I can't help but love a forward woman. And like that other good post by some other guy a few pages before that first guy, to give him a sort of a worthless credit, I don't go full-on vintage either, but I do wear older and more classically styled wool suits that I find in thrift stores, some with the vest, and I wear them everywhere now - the movies, the mall, on the town, in the country, at the grocery store, etc. That's enough to be abnormal to some people, but as someone else or perhaps one of the first two guys I mentioned already excellently pointed out, you have to be confident and not give a button what anyone else thinks, or else you won't even be able to enjoy life properly at all, suit or not.
Does it get me play? Play's a euphemism for porking, right? Just kidding. Well certainly it gets me some great attention, and sometimes from unlikely places. Case in point: I was picking up an iced coffee from a McDonalds here in Charlotte a couple of days ago, on the way out to the country to see some relatives there. Tweed jacket with patched sleeves, dark brown wool pants, white shirt, black silk tie and shiny brown shoes. A cute black girl in a tank top and cut-off jean shorts with a tramp stamp and flip flops was staring at me in the parking lot, and she had a boyfriend too...
Now, I could have jumped to conclusions and chalked it up to derision, but that's not how I cut the pie. Her boyfriend strode ahead of her on the way in and let the door shut in our faces. XD I held it open for her and to my surprise she said she really liked my suit, with a solid up-and-down undressing too, if I may be so bold as to project that onto her. I said "It's not a suit you dumb bitch, it's a jacket and pants." No of course I didn't, I didn't even think that; please excuse my inappropriate sense of "humor." But she really did compliment the outfit like that, and it totally made my day.
I've definitely never been complimented by a girl when not wearing a suit or hat. My hats get me the most compliments, so I have to side with the "girls love fedoras" school of thought here at the lounge. I can't go out in a fedora without getting a compliment on it, and I'm so dumb with girls that it's never even occurred to me before to plonk it on the complimenter's head, as that one savvy poster likes to do. Now I can't wait to go out in my hat again. I'll probably do it wrong though and they'll go from nervous smiles to shrieking "WHAT ARE YOU DOING?" as I come in with the hat, and then a boyfriend will appear from somewhere and gut punch me. Just a real, solid, gut punch. Take me right to the floor.
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I know that most guys love when a girl makes the first move but it's gotten to the point that a great many men no longer know how to approach a women because they've never had to.
I personally don't like to chase after guys- I think that if a man wants a Lady (proper noun being the point here) then he should be a Man.
Perhaps you could offer your hat with a "Care to try it on?"
That way you avoid any unintentional space invasion and subsequent gut punching
