Please help Cindy (LuvMyMan) and Daniel.

LuvMyMan said:

"... he just smiled and touched his hand on the side of my face and let out a breath of air and it was over."


Bless us all,
Cindy

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LuvMyMan said:

Thank you so dearly. It is very hard for me to express how all the wonderful love and real friendship has been from everyone here on the Lounge for me and for Daniel has meant to us. I am overwhelmed with the goodness of it all.

I was given a referal to a Oncologist that deals with Cancer in the eye that is at the U. of M. in Ann Arbor, so we took Daniel there for that one issue, and then also have been able to get additional medical treatments for his other problems. Sadly, in the middle of a medical treatment of having a radioactive pellet placed behind Daniel's eye in an attempt to get rid of tumor there, Daniel had a heart attack. He has been in the Hospital since then and recovering thankfully from the heart attack but the cancer is spreading to such an extent, there is not anything positive to gain now for trying to save his eye. Both Daniel and I accept that the way things are heading, to just go from day to day is all we can do now.

I lost my Mom and had her in a Hospice setting at a rehabilitation facility and it was a brutal experience to witness. I just did not desire to put Daniel in that sort of a setting so a few have suggested that for his care to be having hospice here at home. That was not an attractive option given the circumstances at first, but I think it is what will have to take place very soon. Nature is going to take it's course in what happens as much as I would wish it to be different. Daniel is worn to the bone and has become so weak it is a lot for him to keep going on much longer. For some time now, it has been take one good step of progress forward and then have to see him go back a few steps and get worse each time this happens. All of the Doctor's have told me with the best interest of heart, that a human can only endure so much that it eventually gets to the point it is at, no matter what medically could be tried, the human body gives in. So I have spent my time with Daniel as much as I can, and in a day or so I will have to make the choice of what to do next as they are allowing me to pray and think of what we want and for Daniel, all he wants is for me to be there with him.

It is so kind that I have had support from friends and family, even business associates have all extended so much love to both Daniel and I. It has made a very big difference to us both, and brings some comfort regardless of sad it all is. And for everything else as to our elderly family members we have cared for, in some ways we have felt it was a blessing to be able to take care of them for the past years and to have them here right up to the last. It is at a point I have no means to control what comes next, but I continue to love and give me entire heart and soul to Daniel as much as other family. I'll not give up, but have to accept what tomorrow will bring. And that is what Daniel is doing already. When the day comes I have to say "so long" to him, I know a part of his heart and soul will be here with me that will not ever change or go away. As life comes along for me in time, when I also pass, I will walk with him along the way in Heaven and continue with this great love and goodness we have always had with each other.

A great beauty is the here and now, and how wonderful and fantastic our time has been within our life and in sharing so much of that with all the friends and "family" right here on the Lounge. I'll be here for the both of us, and thankfully relish the way it has been and will be. It is just amazing how the Lounge has been such a large part of our life and we treasure it dearly. Daniel and I express so much love for all of you. Thank you all so very very much.

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Short Balding Guy said:

Cindy; Heartfelt condolences from my family to yours. It was my pleasure to get to know Daniel via this forum and I truly enjoyed his "company."

I have missed his posts and will continue to miss him. We have lived Daniel's spirit via your posts these past many months. Gone, but remembered fondly. I recall his posts being filled with passion, helpfulness and a genuine sharing of his life experiences and knowledge. Through his posts I recognized that he admired you and cared for you greatly. Your relationship came across this medium (internet forum) as special and deep. Condolences, but congratulations on spending life with such a quality gentleman. We have all been richly rewarded with knowing Daniel.

Gone, but I like many others on this forum will carry his memory. Cindy be safe and healthy in your grief.

Thinking of you and your family this evening. Best, Eric -

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