Taking a hat off at the table - it’s just the way I was raised. I have yet to not find a place to put my hat. I have a little hanger that allows me to hang it on the back of my chair in most cases. While serving in the Marine Corps there were times when I was required to keep my cover (hat) on while eating in the chow hall. It always bothered me but I did it. I live in Texas and often see men in cowboy hats and caps eating in restaurants without removing them. I find it distasteful but would never try to impose my view nor say anything. If you are sitting at my table - then the rules change.Respectfully, I disagree. We don’t live in a time with the rigid rules of etiquette that previous generations did. We also don’t live in a world where most restaurants offer a coat and hat check…at least not in the warmer climes where I live. If I’m wearing a hat, and my car is a mile away, and the restaurant doesn’t offer a safe place to store my hat, it stays on my head while I eat. The people who would think that boorish or ignorant are not those whose opinions I care about.
Obsessive following or old etiquette rules can come across as an affectation. Like tipping your hat to women while giving them the “m’lady” salutation. Also think about the why. Why remove your hat while dining? Are you blocking someone’s view? If the function no longer exists but the custom remains I just don’t give it much weight. I have nothing against those who choose to follow old etiquette rules, but I don’t find it in the least bit offensive if others chose otherwise.
Feel free to disagree.