Having killed some time reading much of the Chrismans' blog, I think one thing that might help Sarah, especially, is to simply develop a sense of humor about it all. She approaches the whole thing with the absolute zeal of the convert, but learning how to kid around with the curiosity-seekers and annoying "what are you dressed up for?" types would do much to defuse the tension she seems to keep experiencing. I'm speaking from long experience here -- she's been doing her thing for five years, but I've been doing mine for most of my life -- and trust me, if she doesn't learn to defuse the hostile reactions thru humor, she's going to have a very difficult time of it. When someone asks me what I'm dressed up for and I simply look around in an exaggerated way as if to see who they're talking to because it couldn't possibly be me, that always makes the questioner laugh and is far better than any kind of supercilious reply or hostile response could ever be. There's a time to be tough, and there's a time to just laugh things off and just go on about your business.