Pardon the intrusion, Ladies, but I have some questions: My younger brother is getting married next month (and again in October - to the same woman, of course) and yesterday he called to invite me to his bride-to-be's shower - TODAY. It didn't feel right to me, but I said I'd attend. This morning, though, I decided not to for two reasons: 1. Traditionally, a bridal shower is for the bride and her female friends. The men have a their own party. 2. I feel that less than twenty-four hours between invite and party isn't enough time, not to mention it made me feel like an afterthought. I called my brother (had to leave a message - he didn't answer) and told him I wasn't going and why, and also told him I'd be happy to go to his bachelor party, given adequate notice (I didn't tell him the late invite made me feel like an afterthought). Here are my questions: Am I wrong for saying I'd attend, and then, eighteen hours later (and four hours before the shower) telling him I'm not? Are my two reasons valid? Thank you, Lee _______________________________ My eighteen hours in a Quandary, and how they grew.