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Your Most Disturbing Realizations

GHT

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A disturbing realisation came with the sad loss of David Bowie and Alan Rickman, both were 69. I'm 69.
 

LizzieMaine

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What's disturbing to me is the realization that every musical personality I enjoy with the exception of Bea Wain, Vera Lynn, and Baby Rose Marie, is dead. I spend entire days being entertained by the voices of a generation that within the next couple of years, tops, will be as extinct as the dodo. And yet to me they're as alive as I am.

Or maybe I myself am *also* dead and I just don't know it yet.
 

2jakes

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What's disturbing to me is the realization that every musical personality I enjoy with the exception of Bea Wain, Vera Lynn, and Baby Rose Marie, is dead. I spend entire days being entertained by the voices of a generation that within the next couple of years, tops, will be as extinct as the dodo. And yet to me they're as alive as I am.

Or maybe I myself am *also* dead and I just don't know it yet.

This realization is part of the baggage that we
carry as we age.
There are nights, I count all the folks & friends
that are no longer with me.
My physical pain is not too bad.
I’m still able to enjoy some things.

I realize that someday I won’t be able.
I figure if I'm lucky, I have about 20 years
before I make my exit.
I always enjoy reading your posts.
 
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...I’m still able to enjoy some things.

I realize that someday I won’t be able...
This was possibly the most disheartening thing about the way my father-in-law's life ended. He'd always been an independent, do it yourself, "jack of all trades, master of some" kind of guy. As his years advanced his body slowly failed, but he was mentally sharp to the day he died and was well aware of the ever-increasing list of things he could no longer do. Sometimes I wonder if it's not better to have some form of disorder that robs us of that awareness as we draw closer to our last breath.
 

2jakes

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This was possibly the most disheartening thing about the way my father-in-law's life ended. He'd always been an independent, do it yourself, "jack of all trades, master of some" kind of guy. As his years advanced his body slowly failed, but he was mentally sharp to the day he died and was well aware of the ever-increasing list of things he could no longer do. Sometimes I wonder if it's not better to have some form of disorder that robs us of that awareness as we draw closer to our last breath.

I’ve always enjoyed playing baseball, basketball, tennis, or swimming in the river like a kid.
People have told me I should act my age. But the people who tell me these things are
the same age as me yet they no longer are able to do things because they stopped a long
time ago & became “adults”.
And now their body is paying them back .

There are times now, when I go from one room to the other &
don’t remember what was the reason I went there in the first
place. I have to think for a second.
I figure this is the natural process of the body that happens with
time & aging. So I focus by writing things as reminders. I do
crossword puzzles to keep my brain active. Or photoshop on the forum.

There’s a guy who goes to the mall & sits at the entrance & waits
for the wife to do her shopping.
He’s unhappy, miserable & simply bored.
If it was me. I would walk around, check the shops that I like.
Go to the book shop or treat myself to a favorite dish in the picnic area.
Anything would be better than to sit there & wallow in a pity-party of one.

But I can understand if I were to loose the ability to walk which would
prevent me from enjoying things.

How would I deal with it ?

I would probably get a fast speed wheelchair & be chasing the nurses
all over the place.

The real tragedy would be if I should catch the nurse &
not be able to remember why I was chasing her in the first place.

In that case...

somebody...

please...

just shoot me ! :D
 
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1961MJS

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Deck the halls with advertising,
Fa la la la la la la la la.
'Tis the time for merchandising,
Fa la la la la la la la la.
Profit never needs a reason,
Fa la la la la la la la la.
Get the money, it's the season,
Fa la la la la la la la la.
-- Stan Freberg, 1958.
Hi

Well Lizzie, that will be VERY difficult to forget. I'm just a bit shocked that it was written before the 1980's. He'd be DISTURBED to see us now. I don't like Xmas shopping anymore, the kids are 25 and 28 with no grandkids. I just flip them $.

Later
 

2jakes

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What's disturbing to me is the realization that every musical personality I enjoy with the exception of Bea Wain, Vera Lynn, and Baby Rose Marie, is dead. I spend entire days being entertained by the voices of a generation that within the next couple of years, tops, will be as extinct as the dodo. And yet to me they're as alive as I am.

Or maybe I myself am *also* dead and I just don't know it yet.

Without our brain and muscle... :rolleyes:

...not a single wheel can turn! ;)
 

vitanola

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What's disturbing to me is the realization that every musical personality I enjoy with the exception of Bea Wain, Vera Lynn, and Baby Rose Marie, is dead. I spend entire days being entertained by the voices of a generation that within the next couple of years, tops, will be as extinct as the dodo. And yet to me they're as alive as I am.

Or maybe I myself am *also* dead and I just don't know it yet.
I was in that position more than a decade ago. The last surviving artist to whom I regularly listen would probably have been either Annette Hanshaw or Seger Ellis, and the last surviving film star would have been Anita Page.
 

LizzieMaine

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I see the pacing of life as like the groove on a record. When it starts at the outer rim, the needle has further to travel with each revolution, but that distance reduces with each turn, so that the linear velocity of the groove passing under the needle increases as it approaches the center of the disc, even though the RPMs remain constant. The record turns at 78rpm all the way thru, but the linear velocity increases as the song plays thru to the end.

And then the song is over and the needle either hits the lock groove or skids across the label, and that's the end of it.
 

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