American Way to Beret

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Nice to see a beret that isn't black

You Ameericans no how to wear beret!

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His eyeglasses go just right with it too. I'm not too sure if he looks happy to have his picture taken though...

I check out your website all the time. Neat stuff.

i thought the glasses withthe beret were really great.

he was quite flattered to have his picture taken but kept asking where he should look.

Yes...

I think I may purchase a maroon beret like that one in short order. That gent looks very good in one, that picture is giving me the motivation to try one out. Of course in Southeast Texas, where I live, it may not go over well. For that matter, most folks think my eight quarters are some kind of beret.

I'll keep my Cowboy Hat handy...

i think im going to try one

i've been giving the fedora thing a real earnest try, but I just don't think it's me. I feel goofy and my wife just can't take me seriously. don't get me wrong. i'm willing to push it and try. But it just doesn't jit. I thinkmaybe because i look kind of liek a younger version of the fellow int his picture. i thinka beret might work for me.

Richard, it sounds like youre going through what I went through the first time I tried on a fedora. The trick is first to try it with lots of different outfits then to start wearing it more often, then finally to stop giving a monkeys what other people think. If you like the fedora, and it sounds like you do, then just wear it. My wife, I love her to bits, just doesnt like my fedoras. Thats fine, I dont particularly dig some of her earrings, some of her necklaces, a couple of pairs of her shoes and so forth, but I have the grace to just get on and let her be her (and that took time and a little consideration that before I met her she was who she was without my input and I liked her just fine.) Your wife has seen a sudden change, hatless to hat, in the blink of an eye and all it takes is some getting used to. She will probably disagree vehemently but there are many reasons why partners dont like change.

1. Fear of moving apart. If youre very close then change can trigger a quite subconcious fear of not actually knowing each other that well. Time will prove that things just settle back down.

2. Uncommon attention. Women have vast fashion rights and its not common for men to wear things for fashions sake alone outside of what is dictated by the high street. Well, Ive got news for you, the high street is dictated by buyers. Check out the Sartorialist and you will see dozens of designers ideas. What they put out will never catch on because its art not fashion.

3. It does look odd because youre not wearing it, its an affectation and youre sending out signals of discomfort and even inviting comment by eye contact. Next time you get a funny look consider what you did first. Did you make long eye contact subconciously inviting comment by actually looking at an invisible hat on the commentators head. Seriously, people will mirror your discomfort just like a dog smells fear. When a woman walks down the street she doesnt make eye contact with guys or even women who are all checking out what she is wearing for different reasons. Women just get on with it and if heaven forbid you actually stopped a woman in the street and laughed at her shoes you would certainly know about it! Women dont take kindly to impolite people. Well we guys arent too differerent only we accept a culture of mickey taking. For instance: I wore a suit to work the other day and a grey fedora. Before I even got to the training room two females said my hat looked great and loved the look. I opened the door for one of them and she said, "I love that look on guys because it reminds me of when men used to act properly. Just like opening the door."

I got to the training room and just one of my male colleagues made a quip (joking comment). My reply was quite firm. "Ive just been complemented by two women this morning mate, so what makes you think I give a monkeys what youve got to say?"

Moral of the story. Ok so your wife might not like it. Dont argue with her or let it come between you because the hats not worth it. Just wear it and dont let it be a point of discussion any more than you would dictate her make up or any other clothes. Take her point graciously but just say you really like the look and leave it at that. Second but far less importantly dont let people dictate what you wear on your head. If you count the number of people who dont make comment and accept that they are neither impressed nor in disagreement about your style of headwear, then count it in opposition to those who do make comment, you will find that the latter are a tiny tiny minority and its they who look and sound silly.

Richard....

Richard said:

i've been giving the fedora thing a real earnest try, but I just don't think it's me. I feel goofy and my wife just can't take me seriously. don't get me wrong. i'm willing to push it and try. But it just doesn't jit. I thinkmaybe because i look kind of liek a younger version of the fellow int his picture. i thinka beret might work for me.

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...then the Newsboy might be just the ticket. Y'all can wear it with just about anything from suits to shorts.

Richard said:

i've been giving the fedora thing a real earnest try, but I just don't think it's me. I feel goofy and my wife just can't take me seriously. don't get me wrong. i'm willing to push it and try. But it just doesn't jit. I thinkmaybe because i look kind of liek a younger version of the fellow int his picture. i thinka beret might work for me.

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Try different styles and colors. Get to a hat store (if possible) and try on hats with different crown heights, brim widths, different band widths and colors. All of these things make a big difference and the slightest variations in any of these factors can greatly effect the look.

We get customers who have never worn a hat and they just put on any hat and say "See, I don't look good in hats.". I wouldn't call finding the right hat a science but it takes a little more effort for some folks. There are people who can wear any hat and those who have to find the right hat.

Good luck.

Richard. Put the hat on your head and walk out the door.

Berets are a very underestimated piece of hat...

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