Intimidated by Style

[Senator Jack]

Okay, I've been dressing vintage for more than half my life now, but never before than now have I been accosted by more people who are somehow intimidated by my style. Though in another thread I wrote that women express their desires to have their men dress like me, I also get a lot of women who ask me 'Why are you so insecure?' And this, unwarranted. I'm not talking to them. I'm not paying any attention to them. They just intrude on my conversation and blast me. They seem to think I'm overcompensating, or that I think I'm better than everyone else. (Well, that goes without saying. lol ) I get this from some men too, but I've noticed that it's mostly women.

Again, when I was wearing sharkskin suits as a kid, I never got this. Anyone else on the vitriolic end of this trend?

Regards,

Senator Jack

 

[Lincsong]

NO! With my new Panama hat people tell me that I look exceedingly handsome and confident. But, then here in San Francisco Bay where dressing like a slop is fashionable, people are glad to see someone, ANYONE, take a little pride in themselves.

 

[Lady Day]

They tell you youre overcompensating, but Im sure that guy in the $200,000 sports car just has it because of his love for the auto. Come on!

We all know women act out or say to people what they are either jealous of and didnt think of first, or dont like your nerve because you are so confident, you dont need them to puff you up. Some women want you to denegrate yourself in your reply, so you can prove to them that they know you are inferior. I know a lot of women who are afraid of men like that, but of corse they dont admit it.

Insults are not icebrakers.

Keep doing what you are doing, its a great filter for those type of harpies. I have learned that with men, if they cant at least approach after Ive given a nice direct smile, then sadly it wasn not meant to be.

LD

 

[TommySalieri]

Senator Jack! I've had the same exact problem. I entirely agree with you and Lady Day. Indeed, they are intimidated by the sheer confidence that we all possess. If anyone is trying to overcompensate, it is these insecure women and their inability to differentiate between a proper come on and an outright insult.

 

[Samsa]

They tell you youre overcompensating, but Im sure that guy in the $200,000 sports car just has it because of his love for the auto. Come on!

This is right on the money. People overcompensate all sorts of ways, from aformention sports car driver to the sixty year old woman in skin tight jeans and pink hair (which, I am sad to say, I have seen recently!)

You have no doubt drawn negative attention because you stand out from among the million other automatons that croud the streets and shopping malls.

I'd say the women who approach you are insecure - why else intrude on your conversation to make an unwarranted and uninvited comment on the reasons you dress the way you do.

Now, if you were to interrupt others' conversations and say "hey! look how good I look! Don't I look good?" - then I would say you were insecure. You don't....do you?

 

[Sefton]

If anybody says you're insecure they should try dressing in vintage style. You can't do it without being very secure...secure in the knowledge that you look good and secure from the need of approval from people whose own insecurity is written across various body parts in the form of corporate logos. [huh]

 

[herringbonekid]

Jack, i'm amazed that strangers would be so rude, especially in a big city like New York. i've sensed that kind of response before in people but they've never actually said it to my face. if you wear vintage it could in theory be read as "none of your modern clothes are good enough for me because i have more sophisticated tastes". in a sense it's an attack on shared cultural values. following this logic, people feel attacked because deep down they KNOW you look better than them (or their partner). the herd hates it when people don't join in. they must find any means to humiliate that person.

 

[zeus36]

Ask those women why they have to wear makeup. Are they insecure?

 

[BellyTank]

Try it in Glasgow...

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[RetroModelSari]

wow that sounds strange to me. I´d say people that are insecure hide themselves in ugly clothes so no one takes a 2nd look. One has to have a very secure feeling about himself to stick out of the masses!

Don´t get yourself confused by their insecurity

 

[Feraud]

I also get a lot of women who ask me 'Why are you so insecure?' And this, unwarranted. I'm not talking to them. I'm not paying any attention to them. They just intrude on my conversation and blast me.

That is absurd! I guess you are insecure because as a man you do not walk around in flip-flops and baggy shorts.
Well count me in that group too. lol

Intruding on a conversation is rude. Once they step over that line you have a right to tell 'em where to go. A few choice words should put them in place.

 

[jamespowers]

Respond with Ferraud's signature line.

Regards,

J

 

[Strider]

Ask those women why they have to wear makeup. Are they insecure?

Bada bing!:eusa_clap

 

[Baron Kurtz]

Respond with Ferraud's signature line.

Regards,

J

Or with Feraud's current avatar, maybe?

bk

 

[jamespowers]

Or with Feraud's current avatar, maybe?

bk

That might be stretching it a bit. Then again if they get really annoying.....

Regards,

J