You're absolutely right, sheeplady. He is a rotten cut, and why I stayed with him for 18 years is beyond me. But I am free at last and I gotta tell you, today is feels amazing! When I think of him trying to play house with three little kids...I laugh and laugh. Good riddance. Let him screw up his life. He's been doing it since we've been together and I was the one that always fixed things. (He got fired from his last job a few years ago, so this is a pattern). He's supposed to be picking up a bunch of stuff in his garage today, but not everything. He said, "Be patient, please." He left at the end of January. I think I've been MORE than patient. But as he is unpredictable and has ZERO respect for the law, and for my own safety and my daughter's, I will be patient for awhile longer. As soon as I found out he cheated on me, I made an appt with my doctor and got STD testing. Everything is negative, THANK GOD. Over the years, he's told me more than once that if it weren't for me, he would have been dead a long time ago. I was the one that held that damn relationship together, and I ruined my health in the process (I have rheumatoid arthritis and it manifested about five years ago). The stress was unbelievable. I'm breathing a sigh of relief today.