A question for the Ladies of the Lounge

scotrace said:

Please pardon a man's advice when none was asked.

However, if I may finish the thought several of the ladies have expressed "it is her prom..." therefore, you, as a gentleman, should do your utmost to make her feel comfortable and have a good time, taking your cues from her. In trying to remake her thoughts on what should be worn, and send her signals that she is making inappropriate choices in attire for the evening, you may be missing the signals she is sending you about your choice.

If she wants to wear a lovely cocktail dress (that she won't have to ebay the next day), then you might consider changing your own choice to a dinner suit, rather than tails. A gentleman finds out the dressing parameters from his date, and then, as her escort, dresses himself to please her and make her shine on what is an important occasion. It's the difference between:

"I'm wearing tails. Go get a gown."

And

"You will make whatever you wear look like dynamite. Let me know what you choose so I can pick something complimentary."


The first makes her unhappy. The second will probably still have her sighing when she's 60.

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scotrace said:

Please pardon a man's advice when none was asked.

However, if I may finish the thought several of the ladies have expressed "it is her prom..." therefore, you, as a gentleman, should do your utmost to make her feel comfortable and have a good time, taking your cues from her. In trying to remake her thoughts on what should be worn, and send her signals that she is making inappropriate choices in attire for the evening, you may be missing the signals she is sending you about your choice.

If she wants to wear a lovely cocktail dress (that she won't have to ebay the next day), then you might consider changing your own choice to a dinner suit, rather than tails. A gentleman finds out the dressing parameters from his date, and then, as her escort, dresses himself to please her and make her shine on what is an important occasion. It's the difference between:

"I'm wearing tails. Go get a gown."

And

"You will make whatever you wear look like dynamite. Let me know what you choose so I can pick something complimentary."


The first makes her unhappy. The second will probably still have her sighing when she's 60.

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fourstarbanner said:

Man, my date for prom coordinated the car we took to go with my dress but wore a powder blue tux with the rest of his friends in an attempt to be funny.

Needless to say, I was not impressed. lol

Kudos to you for putting effort into making the evening memorable! I say you both should wear what makes you happy, be it tails or a cocktail dress. Have fun!

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DerMann said:

Was that necessary :

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DerMann said:

I knew I should have trusted her more...

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