Dating in 2019

Discussion in 'The Front Parlor' started by Carolina_Girl, Mar 17, 2019.

  1. MikeBravo

    MikeBravo One Too Many

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    I've been part of the Melbourne (Australia) lindy hop scene for 17 years and see men dancing with other men quite a lot (myself included). Nobody bats an eyelid. At a nightclub I imagine it would be different.
     
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  2. Edward

    Edward Bartender

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    Hopefully all scenes will be as progressive one day! Are your classes gender-imbalanced? There's a lot of same-sex dancing in the scene, though it is most commonly two ladies, primarily because of a shortage of men in most dance classes and clubs. I think all of us who dane should lern to follow, though - it's a whole lot trickier than it looks, and gives you a new perspective on leading.

    I gather it also happens in parts of the world where interaction betwen the sexes is more stictly controlled, whether culturally o legally (or both). My other half has described this in Bangkok.
     
  3. Amy Jeanne

    Amy Jeanne Call Me a Cab

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    I casually dated in the years after I split with the ex. Many younger men. It was fun I wanted to have at the time. But it got boring very quickly. Between May and December of 2017 I shut off all my dating profiles and kept to myself. Then, in December 2017 I re-activated my OKCupid. That's when I became annoyed with the "I like older women!" messages. The current boyfriend sent me a nice message amongst all these guys who thought referring to me as an "older woman" was somehow a compliment o_O His message was simply "I like your style from head to toe." We spoke on OkCupid messages for 2 months before we met in February 2018. When I first met him I KNEW we'd be together. Aaaaaand here we are 13 months later :)
     
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  4. MikeBravo

    MikeBravo One Too Many

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    There are usually more females than males in classes and more follows than leads. Yes, the gender "bias/preference" is there, despite the teachers' best endeavours to promote non-gender specific roles; the best way to do this is to say nothing about traditional roles.
     
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  5. Alli Ooh

    Alli Ooh New in Town

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    I am having the same lament lately. And maybe I just don’t realize I’m boring because I haven’t any idea at all where to meet people. Bars never work, and event nights that cater to specific lifestyles have only led me to get involved with terminally odd men. We might have common interests, but that can become the least of my cares quickly.
    I’m at a point in my life where I feel like I really need sh*t to settle down, so I’ve just given up on trying to date.
    Maybe I’ll try the online thing, but that scares me a little too!
     

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