Out Seattle way but not here in greater Denver I’ve seen rear window decals memorializing a departed loved one, often a young person gone way too soon. These people are in terrible pain. They’ve lost a kid and they carry that loss with them everywhere. We don’t wear black armbands these days. But we festoon signposts and decal the back windows on our minivans. Eventually those plastic flowers and candles and whatnot deteriorate away to nothing. And cars get worn out. And the survivors may not ever quite get over their loss, but they get used to it.