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My girlfriend made a good point yesterday when I noted that having had a long career and having just worked for an insurance company, Snoopy should be comfortably set in retirement with, I'm sure, Met Life annuities.

Her point was that my thinking was too practical and I was missing the bigger picture that Snoopy worked for the enjoyment and sense of worth his job gave him. He probably could have retired years ago, but getting up, running around the bed in a crazy frantic manner, going outside to pee and heading off to Met Life every morning made him happy.

It's not always about the money. So while needed or not, I'm hoping that crazy little beagle gets another high-profile job.
 

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My girlfriend made a good point yesterday when I noted that having had a long career and having just worked for an insurance company, Snoopy should be comfortably set in retirement with, I'm sure, Met Life annuities.

Her point was that my thinking was too practical and I was missing the bigger picture that Snoopy worked for the enjoyment and sense of worth his job gave him. He probably could have retired years ago, but getting up, running around the bed in a crazy frantic manner, going outside to pee and heading off to Met Life every morning made him happy...
Not to mention that in the real world we'd be on our sixth- or seventh-generation Snoopy by now. :D
 
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As I was about to clock out at work I tried to compliment a woman on her hair &she had a look of utter disgust on her face. Why can't people just take a damn compliment? All I said was "I like your hair." She looked like I insulted her entire family.

I think, old-fashion 90's are over, when the hair-compliments were still working... ;)

Today, all these yummy mummies, hearing "I like your hair", probably think: "F....d up psychopath!", especially, if I would do the compliment in german language, which would be very freaky. :D

Me: "Ich mag Ihr Haar." :)

Woman probably: o_Oo_Oo_O
 

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As I was about to clock out at work I tried to compliment a woman on her hair &she had a look of utter disgust on her face. Why can't people just take a damn compliment? All I said was "I like your hair." She looked like I insulted her entire family.

Maybe she was having a bad hair day..:rolleyes:..to be honest, it does sound like a creep's pick up line. I think in this day & age it's best to steer clear of comments about someone's personal appearence unless you pick up the right signals from them, you don't know what the person's been through & sometimes yet another jerk trying it on may be the last straw. How would you feel if a guy came up to you & said " I like your butt in those pants" :D
 
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...to be honest, it does sound like a creep's pick up line...
I think this might have been the real problem. Most of the single women I know have at one time or another expressed their disdain for the "stupid pick-up lines" men have tried on them, so her response may have been a defensive move in an attempt to dissuade you, just in case. These days I think it's preferable to start by asking something like, "May I pay you a sincere compliment without it being misinterpreted as a cheesy pick-up line?"
 

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I think this might have been the real problem. Most of the single women I know have at one time or another expressed their disdain for the "stupid pick-up lines" men have tried on them, so her response may have been a defensive move in an attempt to dissuade you, just in case. These days I think it's preferable to start by asking something like, "May I pay you a sincere compliment without it being misinterpreted as a cheesy pick-up line?"

Man....."May I pay you a sincere compliment without it being misinterpreted as a cheesy pick-up line?"
Woman...." sure, give it a shot "
Man....." I like your hair "
Woman....."Get lost, creep ! "
:D
 

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Man....."May I pay you a sincere compliment without it being misinterpreted as a cheesy pick-up line?"
Woman...." sure, give it a shot "
Man....." I like your hair "
Woman....."Get lost, creep ! "
:D

One of my blessings is that I no longer have to deal with all that. I pity the young man who nowadays wants to explore the possibility of --maybe-- you know, wanting to tentatively and delicately explore the possibility of --maybe, possibly-- ...oh, forget it. Romance is dead and buried. Creepy if you do, spineless if you don't. In this world of --justly so-- 50/50 division of everything, shouldn't the burden of "rejection" also be shared 50/50? Gals never pay compliments because they don't have to. Guys are creeps because ...9 times out of 10 if they pay a compliment (sincere or not), they are a "creep"; but one time out of ten, they are a hero. If they never venture a compliment, they are alone every Saturday night. Of course, there is a right way and a wrong way to do everything and there is no excuse for being a boor. And so the sad cycle continues. Equality in all things (except, of course, risking rejection. That's a man's job.) Fortunately, I guess, guys are idiots who are eternal optimists. Women might strongly disagree. On the other hand, sometimes an innocent compliment is sometimes just an innocent compliment. You can get in trouble for both noticing someones new hair style and NOT noticing her new hair style. Been there, done that.
 

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It would never occur to me to compliment a male stranger in a checkout line. "Hey buddy, nice neckbeard." I'm too busy looking for my lottery slips to notice anything about anyone else.

On a couple occasions I've had women- whom I do not know- come up to me in public and ask if they can run their fingers through my hair! I'm in such a state of shock when that happens that I can't refuse. Blame it on the gene pool from both parents: the men start turning grey in their 20's, but baldness is unheard of.
 
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On a couple occasions I've had women- whom I do not know- come up to me in public and ask if they can run their fingers through my hair! I'm in such a state of shock when that happens that I can't refuse. Blame it on the gene pool from both parents: the men start turning grey in their 20's, but baldness is unheard of.
And I have had a number of women ask to rub my bald head or touch my beard throughout the years; go figure. I must also note that I never took it as if they wanted to take me home; they were curious.
:D
 
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We might hope that people would have some sense of how they are perceived by others.

It is surely true that a person (let's narrow that down and call that person a heterosexual woman) might welcome the very words coming from a fellow she finds attractive that would be anything but welcome coming from a man she finds unappealing.

Duh, as the kids say these days.

Looks matter, but they ain't all that matter. For if they were, I'd be a virgin yet.

Sure, we've all barked up the wrong tree a time or ten. But I suspect that many of us have walked right past many a tree all but begging for a bark.
 

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I think this might have been the real problem. Most of the single women I know have at one time or another expressed their disdain for the "stupid pick-up lines" men have tried on them, so her response may have been a defensive move in an attempt to dissuade you, just in case. These days I think it's preferable to start by asking something like, "May I pay you a sincere compliment without it being misinterpreted as a cheesy pick-up line?"
I just stick to the tried and proven, "say foxy moma!" :D
 

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The area I grew up in is very touchy-feely. As a woman, I still have to fight the urge to give a hug to anyone I've just met socially when we part. Also it's weird as heck to have friendships with people I don't hug on parting.

So I'd recommend avoiding at least the part of NY state I was raised in if you don't like hugs. Because people here hug... a lot.
 

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